Fear of Abandonment

In the previous article, we discussed types of fear and they were fear of abandonment, rejection, or disapproval. Fear of losing oneself or being trapped in pain, loss of self and fear of the unknown. 

It took me a while to write on this topic as it is something I struggle with. In the next few articles, we will understand each fear, its cause, and ways to work on it.

 

 

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What is Fear of abandonment?

It is the intense worry that people close to you will leave. It can be deeply rooted in a traumatic experience a person had as a child or a stressful relationship in adulthood.

People who face the fear of abandonment find it hard to maintain healthy relationships. This paralyzing fear leads people to create a wall within themselves to avoid getting hurt. Or they might be unintentionally sabotaging their relationships.

The first step in overcoming the fear is to reflect on your behaviors and acknowledge why you feel this way. So it helps you to address your fears on your own or with therapy. 

 

 

Physical Abandonment

You may fear that someone you love is going to physically leave and not come back

Abandonment of emotional needs

We all have emotional needs. When those needs aren’t met, we feel unappreciated, unloved, and disconnected. And very much alone, even when you’re in a relationship with someone physically present. If you’ve experienced emotional abandonment in the past, especially as a child, you may live in perpetual fear that it will happen again.

 

 

Fear of vulnerability

Points 1 and 2 can lead to being afraid to let yourself be vulnerable in a relationship. You may have trust issues and worry excessively about your relationship. That can make you suspicious of your partner. In time, your anxieties can cause the other person to pull back, continuing the cycle.

 

Do you feel that you have fear of abandonment? Spend some time with yourself and reflect on yourself. In the next article, we will discuss the symptoms of fear of abandonment and ways to heal it. Till then take care 

 

 

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